Between my sheets blog
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Between My Sheets
The Truth About Sex and Long Term Relationships
The truth is, after you’ve been with someone for months and then years, the sex just isn’t the same.
Right now, Cash and I are really into the BBC show Broadchurch. The show is about a little boy who is murdered and the investigation surrounding his death as the police try to figure out who did it. Along the way, a lot of dirt is dug up on a lot of people, including the boy’s own parents. We find out that the father has been cheating with a local innkeeper.
He’s been with his wife since they were 15 and 17 years old (and are now in their 30s or 40s). When she asks why, all he can say is that it is different. The “other woman” isn’t prettier or sexier. It’s just something new.
I get that. Not that I want to cheat on Cash or worry that he wants to cheat on me. But we’ve been in a relationship long enough now that the sex isn’t that exciting, new, fun romping like it used to be.
It happens to every couple. And that’s the truth.
But here’s what else: It’s also so much better.
Because although we don’t have that excitement of “newness” anymore, we know one another’s bodies, and know what the other person likes. We also better understand our own limitations and preferences with the other person, and we are less inhibited due to that weird embarrassment of having sex with someone for the first time.
I know that if I am on my back with my feet in the air, Cash is going to perfectly hit my g-spot as he thrusts. I also know that if I flip and we’re doin’ it doggie, he’s going to last longer. I know how to keep the blow jobs steady and gaining in speed to get him off. I know how he likes me to rub his head after ward.
We fit together at night when we snuggle, without even thinking about it.
He knows that I need a hug when I’m stressed more than I need anything else.
I know the brand of condoms he likes.
He knows my favorite toy.
The truth about sex and long term relationships is that the trade off for the excitement of new sex is that you get to work at have better and better and better sex.
I think a lot of couples fail at this (or at least struggle) because they expect that new lust to always be present. When it wears away, you have to start working harder at your sex life to keep things interesting. If you don’t, it’s a distinct possibility that one or both of you will begin to cheat to feel that excitement again. It doesn’t have to be that way. The sex can be awesome. It just takes a little more work.
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