So I would always recommend sex toys for men to use when they are masturbating – especially men who are experiencing a sensation-based sexual struggle. The most common sex toys I suggest using are Fleshlight’s aka fake vaginas, isn’t a sponsored blog so these are my own feelings.
First, let’s look at a few reasons why men may want to try using a FleshLight:
- He is tired of using his hand.
- He wants to explore a different feeling or level of pleasure.
- He is working through some type of sexual struggle related to genital sensation.
The reasoning behind this is that they help with two common struggles delayed ejaculaton and early ejaculation and not just because I want to sell them here :). In both of these instances, sensation, either being overly sensitive (early ejaculation) or not sensitive enough (delayed ejaculation) is usually part of the issue. When you start to use one of the male masturbation toys, you can teach yourself more easily how to get used to the sensation to either take you closer to orgasm, or teach you how to control your orgasm.
Hands can be a tricky part of a sexual struggle during masturbation.
The way I like to explain it to people is that our hands have a tremendous about of dexterity and range. They can untie tiny knots in jewelry chains or assist in chopping down trees. When it comes to touching your cock with your hands, the grip and movement, angle and so on can really affect how you are able to feel sensation.
For men who struggle with delayed ejaculation, it can be difficult for the pussy to bring enough sensation to the cock. I have found in my practice that most men who struggle with delayed ejaculation masturbate with what is called a death grip or super fast with certain pressure on the head or shaft. While some women may be able to hang with you for the hard and fast thrusting, many will tap out. Helping yourself train with a male masturbator toy can increase the possibility that you will be able to orgasm inside of a pussy.
For men who struggle with early ejaculation, the most common concern that is said is: “what do I do when I enter her pussy? It feels so good I feel like I lose all control.” Starting to learn how to control ejaculation first with your hand is an important start because you can loosen the grip or only allow touch in certain areas where the pleasure is less intense. Yet, to be successful during sex with a partner, you have to learn how to control your ejaculation while your whole cock is experiencing touch – and that is where the male masturbation toys can be very helpful. You can use them in the comfort and privacy of your own room, taking your time, using all the other tools that I have written about in other blog posts. While male masturbation toys are no substitute for an emotional attachment, it can be a great tool for growing more comfortable with physical sensations.
What are the actual male masturbation toys I recommend to people?
The most common male masturbation toy people know is called the Fleshlight. The Fleshlight is actually the name of the product and was created by a (now retired) police officer, Steve Shubin. Shubin wrote in an article that he is baffled as to why dildos have become an acceptable brunch conversation topic, while male sex toys remain taboo, and he makes a really good point!
There are options galore when you order one; assholes, mouths, colors, pretty much anything you can think of. I always recommend that you do research and read the reviews before you purchase your toy.
Another male masturbator toy I recommend is the Shots Range. This toy is easy to clean and while similar to the Fleshlights, it is smaller in over all size with a plastic exterior outside. The shots are slightly cheaper then its competitor yet hearing from people who have tried both, don’t see much of a difference.