So with this blog I want to speak to both of you, and I know I find it easier sometimes coming from a third party so guys listen up and lady’s speak up. A woman’s libido is complicated. Getting in the mood doesn’t just hinge on that one organ yeah guys she’s not like us there are many emotional and mental factors that can influence how she feels, which makes it easy for her sex drive to fluctuate. Just like you she’s not always going to be jumping to hit the sheets, and that’s totally normal.
If you’re someone who is typically raring and ready to go, it’s frustrating when that feeling suddenly goes missing. But it’s very normal for women to experience problems with sexual desire at some point. And for every woman who speaks up about it, there’s likely to be a handful more who have the same experience but don’t seek help so lets change that now.
If you’ve noticed your libido is lower than normal and can’t figure out why, here are some things that could be causing the change.
1. Something Is Missing.
Women in long term relationships lose their sex drive more readily than men. There’s a number of different theories as to why this happens, but its suggested that because emotion plays a bigger role in sex drive for women than men, it’s more likely sex drive will go away if a connection is lost or feels strained. For women, if the emotional connection is lost in a relationship, that can colour how much sexual desire there is.
2. We’re All Getting Older.
There isnt much you can’t really do to stop this from happening (yet). While we are ageing our hormonal balances change, so does sex drive. That’s because testosterone levels change throughout life, peaking in our 20s, and then decreasing slowly as we age. The ovaries continue to produce some testosterone even after estrogen drops rapidly in menopause, but low estrogen comes with its own side effects that make sex unenjoyable, like vaginal dryness and pain with intercourse and fuck that can really dampen your libido.
3. Bloody Birth Control Meds.
Change in libido is a known side effect of hormonal birth control. Even if you’ve been on one pill and never had issues, switching to a new one with different levels of progesterone could have an impact. This is a KEY TIME to talk to your doc if you’ve noticed a change in your libido that coincides with a new form of birth control. Why not ask about non-hormonal options, that can prevent pregnancy without messing with your hormones, dont give up it might take a couple of trys to get it right.
4. A New Medication Is Stopping Your Orgasms.
So it’s not just birth control meds that can screw with your libido. SSRI’s like I am on prescribed for depression are very well known to dull desire. They also can be because they can make it more difficult to orgasm. An orgasm is important for women’s desire, If you don’t have spontaneous desire but want to be sexual and know you’re going to enjoy it, you’re ready to do it. In a sense, the desire becomes amplified. But if it’s always a disappointing experience, you won’t want to do it. Other medications like those for hypertension diminish orgasm as well. Opiates are also notorious for making orgasm difficult, and the effects can happen even with short term use. Be really careful as desire will go away completely if you’re on them more chronically
5. You Don’t Feel Desired.
Many women wait change that I am sure all of you, get off to knowing you’re wanted. Knowing your partner desires you makes you feel sexy and confident as hell, and therefore, turns you on. If you read female erotica, just about all of it has this quality, where this person wants her. In a new relationship, there’s this fuel where your partner makes it known they want you. When you have been together for a while, you may feel loved and cared for, but that I need to have you right now feeling may have faded and taken your desire along with it. This is time to TALK have an open conversation with your partner about how you’re feeling and coming up with new ways to spice things up is the best way to reignite that desire and get out of a sexual rut.