OK so this time of year the shorter days and the glum outlook we all feel a little down some more than others so in this post I look at a some ideas to fuel your desire, these natural techniques are guaranteed to get you in the mood & Boost Your Sex Drive. You’ve tried lighting candles and slipping into something lacy, but let’s face it: After a long day it sometimes feels darn near impossible to get in the mood. Women do so much juggling, they can put their sexuality on the back burner and lose that connection with their sensual side, But it’s not a lost cause by taking a few deliberate steps, you can reconnect with your sensuality.

Heighten your senses

Tune in and turn on: Women who regularly focus on what they see, smell, feel, and hear report higher levels of arousal and sexual satisfaction. Get in the habit, choose one snack a day to eat thoughtfully, suggests lead researcher Lori Brotto, PhD. Note the food’s texture, taste, and aroma, as well as the emotions it evokes. By practicing being more present, you’ll be better able to plug into the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations that get you hot and bothered, from the smell of his skin to the feel of the crisp cotton sheets on your body.

Change the conversation

We’re guessing your daily dialogue with your man revolves around decidedly un-sexy things, like who’s calling the gas company. So even the slightest allusion to racy thoughts can put you in a more passionate state of mind. Send him a whats app from your desk that hints at some sexy moment: “Remember the time we did it in the kitchen?” This sort of flirty texting puts sex on both of your radars, and builds anticipation for it.

Don’t put on sexy lingerie

Unless it makes you feel sexy, that is. For some women, a lacy get-up can feel like a straitjacket—not helpful. Wear what makes you feel sensual, not what your partner thinks is hot. It will make a bigger difference to your libido, she adds, if you rock these pieces outside the bedroom. Don a silk blouse that feels like heaven on your skin or dangle earrings that graze your neck. It shifts your attention to your body, reminding you that sensuality is a part of who you are.

Get your heart racing as well as your sex drive

Whether it’s yoga or running, doing any exercise that kindles body confidence can boost your sex drive. A study in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality found that the more often we work out, the more desirable we feel. “Women who exercise have higher sexual self-esteem, which means they may have a greater desire to have sex,” says lead researcher Tina M. Penhollow, PhD.

No time for that Zumba class? Even a brisk walk around the block can increase blood flow throughout your body, upping arousal.

Go for a 20-second hug

While the average hug lasts for 3 seconds, a study showed that hugging for 20 seconds increases your levels of the bonding hormone Oxycontin. Touch triggers feelings of deep attachment, which often leads to sexual desire in women, so linger a little longer in that kiss, or touch his arm while you recap your day—every bit of contact helps.